Your narrative is incredibly powerful.
One of the hardest things I’ve had to face in my journey is that I tend to write a crappy story for myself, one that doesn’t necessarily reflect reality.
But what’s come out of that is the slow understanding that I alone have the power to change my narrative. While I’m not great at it and it’s something I must practice often, it’s getting there.
I see clients, friends and family members struggle with their narratives too. Here are some examples.
- The belief that you’re stuck, that you can’t change, or that because you’ve failed in the past that you’re doomed to repeat that failure.
- The belief that fat loss is not a choice, but that it’s a chore or a punishment. It’s something being done to you. You’re at the mercy of something you don’t want to do.
- The belief that something is being taken away from you or that you’re being deprived. That you’re losing something rather than gaining something.
These are extremely powerful perspectives that will shape your behavior. If any of these are the stories that you’re writing for yourself, you can fully expect to want to give up, act out, or suffer.
On the other hand, if you rewrite the narrative just a little, it changes things dramatically.
When I say that, I don’t mean to imply that you can think your way into everything being a walk in the park, because that’s simply not realistic.
I also don’t want to minimize the fact that changing your physique is hard, or that it can unearth deeper struggles which may also need attention.
But hard doesn’t mean that it must lead to suffering. The suffering is far more likely to be related to what you tell yourself about the process, rather than to the actual process itself.
So no, this stuff isn’t always easy. But remember that you’re not a victim. You have choice. You’re making the choice. You’re choosing something that’s important to you.
I want to acknowledge that it can get more complicated than this in some cases, so I don’t want to ever discount that. Still, I believe that a person’s narrative is crucial.
The pen is in your hand. What kind of story will you write?